Are We Being Afflicted by the Devouring Mother?

Are we being afflicted by the "Devouring Mother"?

JULIAN ADORNEY, MARK JOHNSON, AND GEOFF LAUGHTON explain at Reality's Last Stand.  Their article is titled: "How Safetyism Is Robbing Our Children of the Hero’s Journey" Excerpt:

One key element of the devouring mother archetype is that she prevents her child from going on the hero’s journey. The great psychologist Erich Neumann tells a story to describe how this works in The Origins and History of Consciousness.

The basic theme of the work is the mother’s resistance to the growth and development of her son,” Neumann writes. “He has always lived with her, but now he threatens to go away.” The boy’s father “understands that the son is a hero, a god’s son, and, with the help of his wife’s familiar spirit, he tries to make the hero’s fate and its necessity apparent to her and the boy.” Yet he fails. His assertion that “their son is a hero” is “poisonous to her ears.” He says that the world “has need of him [the son],” but the mother rejoins, “My son is no hero, I need no hero son.

Why is the devouring mother so determined to prevent her son from becoming a hero? Because his becoming a hero means he will leave her. He will strike out on his own, beyond the orbit of her love. Neumann notes that “the mother denies him his right to a future, lest the child grow away from her.” When the son suggests that he might have a destiny and could potentially do something valuable with his life, the devouring mother “slaps his face and tells him he is to remain his mother’s son and not have an ego.”

This archetype of the devouring mother, who refuses to let her child mature and become autonomous, is starting to be reflected in the data. Perhaps due to societal overprotectiveness, members of Gen Z are slower to hit developmental milestones than previous generations. They are less likely to obtain their driver’s licenses at 16 and engage in dating during high school. They are more likely to live with their parents, even through their 20s and early 30s. While some trends might seem positive—such as the decline in alcohol consumption among youth—these are also indicative of a larger pattern: young people are not severing ties with their parental homes as early as they once did.

The devouring mother harms her own children, of course. It is difficult to avoid concluding that our societal overprotectiveness contributes significantly to Gen Z’s increasing rates of obesity, anxiety, and depression. But the damage likely extends beyond individual families, affecting society as a whole. The concern is not merely that young people are driving less and dating less; they are also becoming less entrepreneurial. Writing in the prestigious journal Work, Aging and Retirement, researchers noted a steady decline in the percentage of 12th graders aspiring to own their own businesses from the late 1980s through 2014 (the last year the study collected data for). In 1985, 46 percent of high school students said that they would like to be self-employed. By 2015 that number had fallen to just 31 percent.

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Video Synopsis of Jonathan Haidt’s Newest Book: “The Anxious Generation”

Jonathan Haidt's newest book, The Anxious Generation, is out. I bought a copy but haven't read it (though I've watched several interview of Haidt and he makes a compelling case). The statistics are sobering:

Here's a 7-minute video synopsis of Haidt's book to whet your appetite:

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The Modern Destruction of Romance?

Have we convinced our young adults to give up on romance? Freya India thinks so and "It’s tragic, all of this. Tragic because it’s putting us on a trajectory to miss out on what’s actually meaningful." Her evidence? See the following excerpt for some and read her entire article for a lot more:

Gen Z are dating less. Having less sex. Settling for situationships that are empty and meaningless. And I think a major part of this is that human connection comes with a high level of risk. Among young men, for example, I’d say this risk-aversion is most obvious in fear of rejection. A recent survey found that almost 45% of men aged 18 to 25 have never approached a woman in person. Another Pew Survey found that half of single men between 18 and 30 are voluntarily single, which some suggest is in part because of fear.

But I think young women are also risk-averse about relationships. We are naturally more risk-averse, for a start, and an even higher number of women are voluntarily single. But our risk-aversion plays out differently. Most obvious to me is the way we talk about relationships, the advice young women give each other, the therapy-speak and feminist clichés that I think often cloak a deep fear of hurt and vulnerability. . . . Social media is full of young women warning each other and listing out red flags and reasons why you should dump him or dodge commitment. He compliments you a lot? Love-bombing. Says I miss you too soon? Run. Approaches you in person? Predator. It’s all so cynical. It’s all about how not to catch feelings; ways not to get attached; how “you’re not gonna get hurt if you have another man waiting”! We blunt romance and passion with this constant calculation of risk, this paranoid scanning for threats, and by holding back to avoid being hurt. We encourage each other to be emotionally absent, unfazed, uncaring. We even call it empowerment! It’s not. It’s neuroticism. I think we are a generation absolutely terrified of getting hurt and doing all we can to avoid it.

Jonathan Haidt is also impressed with India's analysis:

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The Importance of Unstructured Play for Children

2023 study:

Our thesis is that a primary cause of the rise in mental disorders is a decline over decades in opportunities for children and teens to play, roam, and engage in other activities independent of direct oversight and control by adults.

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Ressentiment Redux

Nietzsche, painted a vivid image of ressentiment that is applicable in modern times:

They monopolize virtue, these weak, hopelessly sick people, there is no doubt of it: "We alone are the good and just," they say, "we alone are homines bonae voluntatis.*" They walk among us as embodied reproaches, as warnings to us--as if health, well-constitutedness, strength, pride, and the sense of power were in themselves necessarily vicious things for which one must pay some day, and pay bitterly: how ready they themselves are at bottom to make one pay; how they crave to be hangmen. There is among them an abundance of the vengeful disguised as judges, who constantly bear the word "justice" in their mouths like poisonous spittle, always with pursed lips, always ready to spit upon all who are not discontented but go their way in good spirits. Nor is there lacking among them that most disgusting species of the vain, the mendacious failures whose aim is to appear as " beautiful souls" and who bring to market their deformed sensuality, wrapped up in verses and other swaddling clothes, as "purity of heart": the species of moral masturbators and "self-gratifiers." The will of the weak to represent some form of superiority, their instinct for devious paths to tyranny over the healthy--where can it not be discovered, this will to power of the weakest!

--Genealogy of Morals, Third Essay, Section 15 (1887)

Translation by Walter Kaufmann (1967)

*Men of good will

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