Negotiate with children like we negotiate with hostage takers
Eric Barker drew an interesting and compelling analogy. "Let’s see what parenting experts and hostage negotiators can teach us, and how it can make for a more peaceful, happier home."
Eric Barker drew an interesting and compelling analogy. "Let’s see what parenting experts and hostage negotiators can teach us, and how it can make for a more peaceful, happier home."
This article at Psychology Today suggests that today's children are damaged by their parents' helicoptering:
In previous posts . . . I have described the dramatic decline, over the past few decades, in children’s opportunities to play, explore, and pursue their own interests away from adults. Among the consequences, I have argued, are well-documented increases in anxiety and depression and decreases in the sense of control of their own lives. We have raised a generation of young people who have not been given the opportunity to learn how to solve their own problems. They have not been given the opportunity to get into trouble and find their own way out, to experience failure and realize they can survive it, to be called bad names by others and learn how to respond without adult intervention. So now, here’s what we have. Young people,18 years and older, going to college still unable or unwilling to take responsibility for themselves, still feeling that if a problem arises they need an adult to solve it.
Consider whether we are capable of learning basic moral lessons. This in a reenactment of the Millgram experiment by the BBC. This video drives home the terrible things that human beings are capable of doing, even when not coerced, where they are merely requested to do these terrible things by an apparent authority figure. Massively unsettling.
This GIF is a lot of fun. Just wish for the train to move in or out of the screen and it will happen.
It's extraordinary the extent to which "news" personalities are trying to bait Bernie Sanders to abandon the issues and engage in personal attacks or horse-race politics. This recent interview with Andrea Mitchell is a good example of this approach by a interviewer and Bernie Sanders' approach to bringing the discussion back to concrete issues.