COVID Public Policy Hurting our Children
I completely agree with Jan Crawford. We are unnecessarily hurting millions of children with our COVID policies. This damage can be seen through many metrics.
I completely agree with Jan Crawford. We are unnecessarily hurting millions of children with our COVID policies. This damage can be seen through many metrics.
My hypothesis:
The college administrators and HR employees who refuse to say no to young woke adults are disproportionately the same people who, in the role of parents, coddled these wokesters over the past decade. Their reluctance to say "no" is their legacy to the rest of us.
For a child, is the world mostly a big playroom or mostly something to fear? Writer (and parent) Lenore Skenazy tells us how dramatically things have changed:
Kids are being treated like babies for even longer stretches. When Jonathan Haidt, co-author of The Coddling of the American Mind, gives lectures, he often asks audience members born before 1982 to shout out what age they were first allowed to leave the house on their own. Many in the crowd answer eight, seven, or even six. (Personally, I shout "Five!")Then, skipping the mishmash of Generation X, he asks everyone born after 1995 to answer the same question, and most of the millennials respond in the 10-13 age range. "The effect is always huge," says Haidt, a co-founder with me of Let Grow, the nonprofit dedicated to making childhood independence easy, normal, and legal.
Kate Julian has gathered the evidence and there is only one conclusion the draw. That is why she has issued her earnest warning for parents: "What Happened to American Childhood?: Too many kids show worrying signs of fragility from a very young age. Here’s what we can do about it." Julian's article is the perfect sequel to a 2015 Atlantic article written by Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff: "The Coddling of the American Mind: In the name of emotional well-being, college students are increasingly demanding protection from words and ideas they don’t like. Here’s why that’s disastrous for education—and mental health."
I highly recommend a slow reading of her statistics and conclusions. As well-intentioned parents, we will need to do a lot of work to do in order to turn this around. Here are a few excerpts from Julian's article:
A study published in 2018, the most recent effort at such a tabulation, found that in just five years, anxiety-disorder diagnoses among young people had increased 17 percent. Children’s emergency-room visits for suicide attempts or suicidal ideation rose from 580,000 in 2007 to 1.1 million in 2015; 43 percent of those visits were by children younger than 11.
Accommodation has become a focus of anxiety research. We now know that about 95 percent of parents of anxious children engage in accommodation. We also know that higher degrees of accommodation are associated with more severe anxiety symptoms, more severe impairment, and worse treatment outcomes. These findings have potential implications even for children who are not (yet) clinically anxious: The everyday efforts we make to prevent kids’ distress—minimizing things that worry them or scare them, assisting with difficult tasks rather than letting them struggle—may not help them manage it in the long term. When my daughter is in tears because she hasn’t finished a school project that’s due the next morning, I sometimes stop her crying by coaching her through the rest of it. But when I do, she doesn’t learn to handle deadline jitters. When she asks me whether anyone in our family will die of COVID-19, an unequivocal “No, don’t worry” may reassure her now, but a longer, harder conversation about life’s uncertainties might do more to help her in the future
Despite more than a decade’s evidence that helicopter parenting is counterproductive, kids today are perhaps more overprotected, more leery of adulthood, more in need of therapy. To be very clear, this is not a cure-all for mental illness. What we need to recognize, though, is that our current approach to childhood doesn’t reduce basic human vulnerabilities. It exacerbates them."
This video is hilarious and exhausting: