Trans men are not the same as men. Trans women are not the same as women. Men were not born as women, whereas trans men were. These are not mean spirited things to say. They are facts. Trans men were born as women and they present as men. If they want me to refer to them as men, I happily will. No problem. But that doesn’t change the fact that trans men are not exactly the same as natural born men. Buck Angel, a trans man, explains:
If you call a woman a man, you are lying. This is not a mean spirited thing to say. It is common sense.